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How to Remind Someone Who Promised You Money

Last Updated on March 24, 2023 by Jerome Donovan

Are you waiting for someone who promised you money and they seem to have forgotten about it? It can be frustrating and uncomfortable to remind someone of the money they promised you. But there’s a uniquely subtle way you can remind someone who promised you money while still maintaining your friendship without a strain on the relationship.

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How to remind someone who promised you money

How to remind someone who promised you money

Reminding someone about the money they promised you without upsetting them is simple if you know how. Here are some ways to remind someone who promised you money:

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  1. Choose the right time

Before you remind someone about the money they promised you, consider their schedule. If they are busy or stressed, they may not be receptive to the conversation but if they seem happy or open, it might be a good time to start a chat or reach out to them.

Also, pay attention to their body language, whether you’re talking to them in person or online.

If you follow them on social media, pay attention to what they’ve been doing recently and try to figure out how they’re feeling and what they’re interested in. This will help you figure out when the best time is to talk to them.

  1. Start with a friendly greeting

Putting a friendly greeting at the beginning of your conversation sets the right tone for the chat. It shows that you are taking a positive and respectful stance toward the situation.

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Don’t ask or tell them right away about the money they promised you. That would be like shooting yourself in the foot, especially if they aren’t in a good mood.

Your friendly greeting would be a way to see how they react and decide if it’s time to take your shot.

If you start your conversation with a simple “Hi!” or “Hey!”, the person will feel more comfortable and open to what you have to say. 

You could also say:

Hi, I hope things are going well for you. I’m just checking up on you to make sure everything is okay. Have a pleasant day.

  1. Give them time to respond

It wouldn’t be fair to say “hello” and then ask for money right away. It would appear so fake, which might irritate them, especially when dealing with a stranger for financial help.

You know what it’s like to feel like someone is only concerned about you because you promised them something. That might be how they feel if you ask for money right away. So it’s important to give them time to respond and not bombard them with your talk.

  1. Engage them in a conversation

Continue chatting with them after their response, and ask about their well-being and other things. Allow them to feel at ease around you.

The goal is to make an entry and then wait for the perfect moment to remind them that they promised you money.

Focus on neutral matters when chatting with them, then pause and toss in the reminder line when you feel it’s the right time to do so.

  1. Thank them for their promise

You could also remind them of the money they promised you by thanking them ahead. This would convey a clear message to them that they should have sent you the money. They’d also feel a little guilty for not sending it yet. 

Also, expressing gratitude demonstrates that you value their consideration and generosity. It generates a sense of reciprocity and establishes a positive tone for the conversation.

  1. Remain polite

Stay polite when reminding someone that they promised you money. Even though they haven’t done what they said they would do yet, it’s possible that they forgot or ran into problems. So, be polite and thoughtful, even if they don’t answer the way you wanted them to.  

International Judo Federation describes politeness as being expressed by the use of certain formulae, such as:

  • hello
  • hi
  • Please
  • sorry
  • thank you
  • by specific attitudes such as a smile to whom you speak, etc.
  1. Show understanding and leave a follow back date

If there was a valid reason for the delay, show understanding and empathy. For example, if the person who promised to send you money forgot because they have been busy with work, you could say, 

I understand if you’ve been busy. I’m sure you’ll send it over, so there’s no problem.

Then leave a follow back date like this: 

In case you forgot again, I’ll remind you next week… lol.

Thank you

You could also suggest an alternative to show that you are understanding, 

For example, you could say:

 If you can’t send the money right now, could you send it later?

Or 

If you are having issues sending the money, let me know if there’s anything I can do to make the process smoother.

This gives the person another option and shows that you are willing to work with them.

  1. Close with gratitude

Finally, end your message with another expression of gratitude. This shows that you appreciate the person’s time and effort, even if they are unable to fulfill their promise. It also helps maintain a positive and respectful tone for the conversation. You could end with something like, 

Thanks again for your generosity and kindness. I really appreciate it.

Message examples to remind someone who promised you money

Example 1

Hello [name]

I hope you’re having a good day. Just wanted to check in and see if you had a chance to send over the money you promised. Let me know if there’s anything I can do to make the process smoother.”

Example 2

Hey,

It’s been a while since we talked about the money you promised to lend me. Could you let me know when you think you’ll be able to transfer it over?”

Example 3

Hi [name], 

I hope this message finds you well. Just wanted to touch base about the money you said you’d lend me. I apologize if this is not the most convenient time, but I still haven’t been able to complete my fees, and I’m running out of options. If possible, could you let me know when you think you’ll be able to send the money? I would greatly appreciate any updates you can provide. Thank you so much.

Example 4

Hello [person’s name],

I hope this message finds you in good health. I wanted to follow up with you regarding the money you promised me. It has been a while since we last discussed it, and I have yet to receive it. If there has been any confusion or issue with the transfer, please let me know so we can resolve it together. 

Example 5

Hi,

I hope you’re doing well. I wanted to remind you about the money you promised to lend me. I know we’ve both been busy lately, but I haven’t received it yet and wanted to follow up to see if there was any update you could provide me with. Please let me know when you have a moment. Thank you.

Example 6

Hi Jane,

I just wanted to drop you a quick message to remind you about the money you promised to lend me. I know it’s not always easy to remember everything, so I just wanted to check in and see if there was any news on when I could expect to receive it. Thank you for your help

Example 7

Hi there,

I hope this message finds you well. I wanted to check in with you about the money you promised to send my way. I’m in a bit of a tough spot at the moment, and receiving the funds would be a huge help. If possible, could you please let me know when I can expect to receive the money? Thank you for your time.

Example 8

Greetings, [Name],

I trust everything is well with you. This is a friendly reminder that you promised to offer me money some time ago. I was just checking to make sure you hadn’t forgotten because it would be extremely useful. Please let me know when you intend to do what you promised.

Example 9

Hello [Name],

I trust you are doing well when you receive this message. I’m writing to remind you that you promised to send me the funds a few weeks back. I understand you’re presumably busy right now, but I’d appreciate it if you could let me know when I can expect the funds. Thank you for putting this into consideration.

Example 10

Hi there!

I hope all is well with you. I was just wondering if there’s any update on the loan repayment you promised me. It’s been a while, and I’m getting a bit concerned. Let me know if there’s anything I can do to help speed up the process.

Example 11

Hey,

I know life can get hectic, but I wanted to touch base about the money you borrowed from me. It’s been a little while since you promised to pay me back, and I just wanted to check in and see if there’s any news. If possible, could you give me a timeline for the repayment? Thanks 

Example 12

Hi

I hope you’re having a good day. Wanted to check in with you regarding the lunch money you promised to repay me. If it’s not too much trouble, could you give me an update on when you think you’ll be able to do so? I would really appreciate it.

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Conclusion

You’ve seen examples of gentle messages that can be used to remind someone who promised to send you money to do so without being pushy or annoying. This method gives them space and doesn’t force them to do something they might not want to do.

No matter what happens, keep nicely talking to the person. They may be going through hard times that they don’t feel comfortable talking about with you. If their position gets better, they might be able to help in other ways. So, keep trying to be friends with them, but if they don’t respond after a while, it might be best to move on and find help from someone else.

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